That is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90%
is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to
us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down; the plane being late in
arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The
other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%, how, by your reaction. You cannot control a red
light, but YOU can control
how you react. Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of chocolate onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down
After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing
the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must
leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to
school. Because you are late, you drive 110 km/h in a 80 km/h speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing Php300 & some demerit points (traffic
fine) away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building
without saying goodbye. You arrive at the office 20 minutes late, because of
how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the chocolate cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is obviously D. You had no control over what happened with the
chocolate. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what cause your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened....
"It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting
on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you go to
work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your
boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?
Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of
what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative
comment affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound on the steering wheel and hurt your own fingers? Do you
curse? Does your blood pressure rocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO
CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your
drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told
you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It
will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The Bus is late; it is going to
mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the
conductor? He has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passengers. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now
you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible and amazing.
It seems simple common sense but very few apply this principle! The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, court trials,
problems and heartaches.
They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible
things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of
joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time.
Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the
fullest. Friends are lost.
Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not
be discouraged. You can be different!
I really think this should be called the 99/1 principle(cause that's a better equation). The title sounds better though. LOL